More Talking, Less Mhmmm-ing
Do you find that getting your children to open up can be similar to pulling teeth? Do you often get one-syllable responses at your attempts to make conversation? Don’t fret; you are not alone! Though some kids have no trouble talking up a storm and communicating openly, others require a different approach or a little more effort to get the conversation flowing. Us at Lo.Co, we understand the importance of putting our phones away and being present in the moment with family, however, sitting in silence isn’t exactly the idea. If you find that you have a difficult time getting answers to the usual “how was your day?” and “what’s new?” conversation starters, try asking a few of the more-detailed questions, prompting your kids to think outside the box and start really answering you back:
- What school subject do you currently dislike the most?
- If you could choose the next family vacation, where would we go?
- What is your favorite activity that we do as a family?
- If you could plan out an entire day of your favorite activities, food, and people, what would your day look like?
- Is there anything about your bedroom that you want to change? (Follow up: Do you want to go to the store with me this weekend to pick out a new one?)
- What three words would you use to describe yourself? (Follow up: Want to know what three words I would use to describe you?)
- Is there any hobby (musical instrument, sport, craft) that you would like to pick up? (Follow up: Do you want me to enroll you in lessons/classes soon?)
- What is the funniest thing that happened this week?
- If you could change anything about school, what would it be? (Follow up: What is your favorite thing about school?)
- If you met a genie who could grant you three wishes, what would you wish for?
- If you could choose to have any one superpower, what would it be and why?
- If you could learn to cook any meal, what would it be? (Follow up: Do you want to make that together next week for dinner?)
- Who is your favorite teacher?
- When is the last time someone was mean to you?
- Is there anything you are worried or nervous about currently?
- Did anything crazy happen at school today?
It might take some time to get your kids to open up, but after a while, they will likely look forward to these fun questions and start feeling more comfortable letting you in on what’s happening in their lives and in their minds. Encourage them to continue the story, by asking follow-up questions, showing enthusiasm when they respond and being interested in what they have to say. Who knows! Maybe they’ll be the ones asking you all of the questions!